"I don't know anyone who's written anything about this, but what I'm aiming for in my own tiny garden is meadow, not lawn."
Yes! I want two meadow patches in my yard. I'm going to have to proceed cautiously, though, because my community has a law against "weeds" that are over a certain height. But this is an environmental-friendly community, so I think I can get away with a couple of "meadow gardens" if I do it the right way.
And there are lots of gardening books out there that talk about growing meadows. They usually have the words backyard or natural or wildlife somewhere in their title. The one I like the best is Sara Stein's
Noah's Garden: Restoring the Ecology of Our Own Back Yards.
"Mine has tall flowering clover plants, white and red: buttercups and daisies. Moss and mint and lemon verbena. Native herbs growing in big healthy bushes."
(*Turns green with envy.*)
(*Ahem, yes. I suppose green would be right color.*)